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Stay with the Nice Guy?

Dear WHOEVER you are lol!

I have been dating a guy for just over two years now. We have lived together for about half of that time. He is the sweetest, kindest, cutest guy I have ever met. However, Im still not ready to fully commit to him. He wants to have more and continue to move forward and I’m hesitant. I just don’t know if he is the one. I feel horrible because he takes such great care of me but he can do the smallest thing and it irritates the hell out of me. I don’t know what to do. Am I a horrible person? Should I stay and stick it out with the “good guy”? HEEEEELP!!


Dear Blaine,

By the way, I’m Micahceous. You’re dating a guy that is your “in case of emergency break glass” guy. This guy should never be dated. Why? This sort of person was built to be a rebound, someone you can rely on but not have anything too serious with lest you confuse things. They’re great company and perhaps you met him at a point when it was convenient for you to be with him. You turned your “in case of emergency break glass” guy into a boyfriend, one of two years even.  What’s the problem with dating this guy? You won’t ever be completely satisfied. He’s the emergency guy because he does sound so good and does treat you well, but there will always be something missing with the emergency guy. You even suggested he may not be the one. Guess what? If you have doubts to if he is or isn’t the one, then he AIN’T the one. Cut your losses, tell him it’s you and not him and go your separate paths before it’s too late. If you don’t leave now, then feelings and furniture will be broken and it’s just not worth it. If you can’t please yourself, who can you please?

I dare not ask what he does that irritates you but if he smacks his food when he chews then that’s an instant deal-breaker.

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  1. Jesse
    July 21, 2010 at 20:50

    I think M is giving you the right answer, but before you break this guy’s heart (because that’s what will happen), you need to find out what you’re looking for. You characterize him as the ‘good guy’ which hints that you might have a thing for ‘bad guys’ as well. If you’re just having fun, that’s cool, but if you’re looking for a relationship moving from one extreme to another is probably not healthy. If and when you break up with this fellow, take some time yourself, and think about what you want in a partner. And whatever happens, don’t move in so quickly…word of advice based on personal experience.

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