So the dating experiment didn’t go nearly as well as anticipated. Sure, I had some dates but not nearly as much as I had hoped for when I started it. But it’s just as well I guess. I mean, let’s be real. Would I really want to go on dates with a bunch of randoms every night? Those things get expensive! Beggars can’t be choosers but go figure once the project ended I was asked on four dates, three of them while walking my dog. Figures.
I’d be up for trying this again at a later date. But right now I’m going to focus on other things, like answering your questions!
Note to self: be careful when bars have two for one specials. Doing this date experiment, I am held to say yes to dates. Granted, it hasn’t been as successful as I had hoped but I’m still chugging along. Last week I was at a bar, beer goggles on blast and I met someone who requested my number. Easy peasy. As we texted the next few days I had trouble remembered exactly what they looked like. So come actual date night, I was a tad nervous. We chose to go to Verde, a new Mexican spot downtown that’s quickly become one of my favorite places. I was running a tad late and just knew that they were inside the restaurant somewhere. I walked in, saw someone to the right of me and immediately said hello, thinking it was my mystery date. So wrong I was, as they turned around with a surprised awkward look on their face. Fortunately for me, my real date was cuter, actually cuter than I vaguely remembered. I guess the beer goggles didn’t fully kick in as I had thought.
The date went well. Good conversation and talks of the future, one of my favorite topics. If someone is interested in their own future, whether it’s career or personal or any other field, I’m always intrigued. The unknown excites me. I guess that’s also partially why I did this experiment. Overall, another fun-filled time.
One of the reasons I’m doing the date experiment is because, as a somewhat newcomer to Phoenix, I don’t know about a lot of places to go out or things to do. So of course I love it when people suggest going to places I’ve never heard of before. So of course my tongue was twirling when 01 asked me out to Vig off of Bethany Home and 16th Street. I thought they said “Fig” or “Bic” or “Vick” but not “Vig.”
Vig has a very nice ambiance. I almost felt like I was in a treehouse. Very high ceilings and the restaurant is enclosed in such a way that, despite being an outdoor patio, it’s designed in a way so that it’s enclosed and thus technically indoors. We drank beers and chatted, talking about something most pressing for folks our age: careers and our future. Sure, there was a little talk of Lady Gaga but that’s typical given she was in town.The conversation flowed and didn’t seem forced after the first few minutes of awkwardness.
The food arrived and my carne asada pancake was most divine. 01’s tenderloin looked and tasted quite delicious as well. At the end of the date 01 and I had a slight awkward moment when the valet brought my car up and I hesitated as to run towards my car or hug 01. But all in all, a smooth date without any hiccups. It was a solid first date and a great way to start this experiment.
Starting today, I am taking on a new project. If asked on a date, I will say yes to it. This project will run for 1 month (August 27). Each date will be recorded in the blog, and each person will be assigned a number to protect anonymity.
Why do this? Besides meeting lots of fascinating people, what better way to test out the creative mind than to be thrown into a situation you may or may not have been in before? Sure I’ve been on dates but to accept dates from total strangers? Now that’s something new. And if I can help you laugh or gain insight in the process of dating or life, then so be it.
I have a few rules however.
- Because I am currently in Phoenix, all dates must take place in Phoenix. I’m not a balla so if you live in New York or Tokyo, sorry, but the date’s not happening.
- I reserve the right to leave the date if I feel my safety will be compromised.
- Be creative. Coffee’s fine and simple but I really want people to test out new material. Want to try that new tofu restaurant? Interested in horseback riding down South Mountain? These are the sort of things I want to see. Try something new, get out of your box. On that note, let’s try to support local businesses.
- Related to #1, I’m no balla so dates can’t be expensive affairs. Keep the price tag reasonable.
So you want to go on a date? Use the sidebar on the right to ask me on a date.
Also note that the other functions of my blog, namely the question-advice segment is still alive as well. Please continue to ask questions and I will answer them.