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the hunt.

I have been dating a guy for a few weeks now. its casual, but i like, but we haven’t had ‘the talk’. a friend of mine sent me his manhunt profile, which was logged into last week.

how do i handle that?


Dear Jack,

It’s only been a few weeks you say? Then I wouldn’t think too much about him being on manhunt. Here’s the thing about sites like manhunt, adam4adam, grindr, etc. A good 95% of the guys on those sites go on them because they’re bored and have nothing else better to do with their time. It’s a form of people watching. So I can bet that although he signed onto manhunt last week, he probably barely spoke to anyone much less made plans to rendezvous. Besides that though, it’s only been a few weeks so it’s not as if he is stuck to you yet, nor you him. If it’s been 4 or 5 months and he’s meeting other dudes on manhunt, then that’s a red flag. But after a few weeks he doesn’t really have to answer to anyone.

Speaking of a few weeks, it’s a bit soon for ‘the talk.’ I’m assuming by saying “few weeks” you mean 3-4. Wait until at least the two month mark before you decide that you want to become exclusive. By that time you’ll know if it’s infatuation or if it’s the real thing, ideally. Just continue to see him as you always do. The game hasn’t been changed yet.

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